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Old 06-22-2012, 01:49 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Default Re: How do you come up with boundaries? Are there questions...

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Originally Posted by yellowstar View Post
I see what you're saying...more about this will protect me.

What if he is more comfortable with me being friends with opposite sex than I am with him...just make it more general boundary like " ask yourself--would my spouse be ok with this?"
The best one for that would be a boundary you both agree on, maybe something like "Opposite sex friends must be approved by the other spouse and/or will not be kept if a spouse is uncomfortable."

Again, every couple is different, I know some folks won't allow opposite sex friends period, and others would cringe and think my suggestion was very controlling. Whatever works for you guys.

Your only personal boundary might be, "I will not be in a relationship where my spouse insists on opposite sex friends against my wishes."
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