Originally Posted by Kathrynthegreat
STBXH and I finally started talking about the elephant in the room in April. In early May we agreed our marriage was dead. Filed for D the day after Memorial Day. Everything is amicable and agreed-upon so it looks like D should be final in August.
I have friends who have been separated from their spouse for 2 and 3 years and I guess I just don't understand it. Can somebody give me some insight into why the long separations? Seems to me that if you haven't lived in the same house, had sex, or even spoken civilly for 3 years, you might as well go ahead and D. I'm just honestly curious.
There are some forums that say this is the way to go -- hoping that the 2 people somehow work things out.
My feeling is that no one should get divorced until they have both done everything possible to save the marriage -- both physically, emotionally and spiritually. If this fails -- then time to move on. Again this is my opinion.