I told her that due to the circumstances, given time, I may be able to overcome the infidelity....its not like we got married 2 years ago and she's bedded 100 men or something, this was within the last 2 weeks, when she and us were in a very dark place....doesn't excuse it any less...but it doesn't actually hurt as much as it could.
You must be kidding right? So 2 or 3 is ok ?
Kids should be the only reason that should even thin about getting back. No kids, divorce!!!
Let us see what she did here.
She got caught, she did not confess.
She kept lying repeatedly and hurt you immensely during this time.
She got a burner phone to keep the affair going. This is not a one night stand when she was drunk.It was intentional and entirely planned out.
She hurt you immensely and made you question yourself during these days while she was having her affair...
While you were breaking your back to make the business work and keep the family(The family with you , her and her kid) afloat, she was having an affair on you.
This OM even insulted you. Remember? She looked at the text to make sure he did not spill anything but did not say a word with you. they both were laughing at you behind your back. She was even meeting him a couple of days back. Only after the friend exposed, did you see the change in her attitude.
How can you trust her after this. next time she will keep the affairs off the phones. What then?Can you verify every time she goes out with friends? She will find a way like she did now.
What happened to all this guilt before she was caught? She has very few options that can sustain her lifestyle now.(Even her mother is pushing her out)
the Coping with infidelity is replete with stories like your where men regret taking back their wives after the first time. Your wife is one of the kind that is full of red flags!!
You said you can tell when she is lying, then you should have known about the affair for a few months. You underestimate your wife.
What happened to the resolve? Read your older posts. Please don't do this!! Taking her back is the biggest mistake you can do.
If you are starting afresh, why start with a cheater?