Originally Posted by BigLiam
I still think the boyfiend deserves to know. I also think your H should have the balls to do the disclosing. He screwed this guy over. How does he feel about having hurt this guy?
That's the hard part. While he feels horrible about getting involved in the EA with this woman... more because it hurt me than anything... I don't think he has given this guy any thought. If we base everything on what she told us (I know, cheaters lie)... he was cheating, too. Only HIS was physical (according to her).
ETA: Girl friend of mine made an excellent point: if the guy DID, in fact, read it, and laughed it off... then he obviously doesn't really think much of her. Of course, if he did what she claims he did, that much is obvious anyway...