GAsoccerman

Irish, how old are you may I ask?

My wife grew up going to catholic school all her life, even college.

Her freshmen year in college she was asked to be in a Menage a trois, she had no idea what they were talking about.

When I entered her life she was a virgin, and had a rule of not dating men more then two months, I obviously broke the mold.

Anyway, comming from a catholic backround, it has pretty much been instilled in you that sex is bad, everything associated with sex is bad.

My wife would only have sex in the missionary position for a long time. Basically I had to "break her down" I had to have her get over her insecurities, about who she was, her body, her self image, her outward image.

It took a long time but she has gotten over most of it, still working on other things.

But communication and trust has alot to do with it and your partner.

But rule #1 SEX IS GOOD!! good for you, good for your spouse, good for all involved (you two). You will have urges, enjoy them, do not surpress your curiousity, be experimental, try new things, don't be shy, it is the love of your life, he will enjoy exploring with you.

Communication is the key, tell your spouse your fantasies and what interest you.....Remember NOTHING is bad in this area.

My wife would never use a vibrator, it was bad!! Now she has the best one on the market and uses it all the time.

Porn is bad!....Now she watches it with me, reads books with me.

You will SLOWLY have to come out of your shell, break down the barriers that have been set up mentally by your life.

It is up to you and hopefully your spouse can help you.

Communication
Trust
respect

all key issues. best of luck.....unleash your wild nature!