Old neckties work great because they are soft. I think a blindfold heightens the experience too. I like to tease her with my tongue and c0ck getting her close but not letting her orgasm until she can't stand it anymore.
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)