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wright1 · 05-18-2008, 06:48 AM

I have been married for over 15 years now to the most wonderful woman. She is a wonderful wife and mother to our 8yr old son. The only problem, until now, has been communication. Although I am able to talk and express my feelings, she has never been able to do so. This has caused much stress and strain at times. It can be very frustrating to me too, though we rarely speak of it.

This week, I discovered my wife was having a relationship. Our cell phone charges went from 200 per month to over 800. When looking at the bill, I found near daily and repeated calls and text messages to 1 specific number. I called the number and found that it was another man. I called my wife and asked about this person. Her reply was that it was not as it seemed. 300 hours of calls in 2 months. We spoke about it later in the day and she assured me that it was not a physical relationship yet, for support. She said that it was never physical and that she guaranteed 100% this to be true. We agreed to work on our relationship and seek counseling.

That evening I found that the relationship was physical. That she was having a long term relationship that became sexual some months ago. When I asked her about this, she admitted to me that it was true and that she loves him. I can forgive her, never got angry over this and am trying to be supportive. She is confused about what to do now. She cries and says that she loves both of us. I dont know what to do. She told me this evening that she wanted a "trial separation". Later she said that we could work on our relationship together. Tomorrow may be another story. She says that she is confused but....I think I am the one truly confused here. I simply dont know what to do other than be as supportive as I can...forgive and forget. We are only human right?

Where to go from here?

05-18-2008, 06:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
wright1 Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 1	Lost - Losing Wife I have been married for over 15 years now to the most wonderful woman. She is a wonderful wife and mother to our 8yr old son. The only problem, until now, has been communication. Although I am able to talk and express my feelings, she has never been able to do so. This has caused much stress and strain at times. It can be very frustrating to me too, though we rarely speak of it. This week, I discovered my wife was having a relationship. Our cell phone charges went from 200 per month to over 800. When looking at the bill, I found near daily and repeated calls and text messages to 1 specific number. I called the number and found that it was another man. I called my wife and asked about this person. Her reply was that it was not as it seemed. 300 hours of calls in 2 months. We spoke about it later in the day and she assured me that it was not a physical relationship yet, for support. She said that it was never physical and that she guaranteed 100% this to be true. We agreed to work on our relationship and seek counseling. That evening I found that the relationship was physical. That she was having a long term relationship that became sexual some months ago. When I asked her about this, she admitted to me that it was true and that she loves him. I can forgive her, never got angry over this and am trying to be supportive. She is confused about what to do now. She cries and says that she loves both of us. I dont know what to do. She told me this evening that she wanted a "trial separation". Later she said that we could work on our relationship together. Tomorrow may be another story. She says that she is confused but....I think I am the one truly confused here. I simply dont know what to do other than be as supportive as I can...forgive and forget. We are only human right? Where to go from here?