Originally Posted by that_girl
Oh, that is just bully/passive-aggressive behavior. Out of line. Then to pretend it didn't happen? Holy wow.
However, do you believe your OD was "calm" when approaching your ex? Not that this EXCUSES that at all.
It's emotional and physical abuse.
Our OD never had anything to really take away. No TV, nothing she really was attached to. However, her dad sent her an ipad so now we have something.
It is possible that OD was calm - yes. I have seen her do this before. Throw a tantrum - take her punishment - and then come back later and try to talk calmly. Just like anyone else who believes they are right about something - she will keep at it and also change her approach.
And I know that my Ex is capable of hitting or smacking. And if you were ever on the infidelity threads here - you may recognize some gas lighting ("I don't know what you're talking about") - something the Ex did to me for two+ years.
As I talked through this with OD tonight - her recounting of what my Ex said and the words she used has made this much more believable to me.
BUT - what do you do about it? I don't think my OD is in any real physical danger - especially now that my Ex has put herself under the microscope.