Cindy

I have to tell you, I honestly don't know how to put it nicely...please be a man. If I cheated on my husband, then lied about it, then said I was torn between him and my lover, he would have my bags packed so fast I wouldn't be able to blink!

And that my dear, is why I respect him which is yet another reason I don't lie to him or cheat. You have to respect yourself enough to set some standards. For us, cheating is a total deal breaker.

When you say you are being supportive, I hear "I'm a doormat and will do whatever possible to make you stay even if means ripping my heart out on a daily basis"

I really don't mean to be harsh. I know it hurts, I can not imagine anything hurting more than your spouse betraying you like that. I obviously don't know what it's like to be in your marriage and I'm not blaming this on you. She is responsible for her actions. All I'm saying is, you will live with what you put up with. I am glad you are in counseling. Best wishes.