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Hi I am 28 and my husband is 32 and we have no children.We love each other and I have never loved anyone as much as I love him. we have been married 3 years and have not had sex for six months now. I have spoken to him about it and he does not deal well with confrontations. Before the sex stopped, he had stopped passionate kissing and just kisses me on the lips. He shows me affection by holding hands and hugs all the time but the sexlife is dead. The problem started about two years ago when we started having sex once a month . I always try and touch him sexually and he turns away or says he is tired. Even if he gets an erection he, does not want to have sex with me. I eventually stopped trying everyday because it hurts me to be turned down all the time.
I found his wedding ring in a box under the bed and when I asked why he was not wearing it, he told me he had not been wearing it for weeks because it was uncomfortable. As I was hurt,I asked about the lack of sex as it had been 4 months at the time. He said he did not enjoy sex with me and did not enjoy kissing me. I then asked iwhy marry someone if you do not enjoy kissing them. He said he loved me but he just did not enjoy kissing me and did not want to hurt my feelings, so never told me and married me. He also said ,sex with me takes too long coz I want foreplay .he wants to have sex his way, without foreplay, i agreed to do it his way but there is still no action.
I recently touched him and when he was turned on, i offered oral sex and he accepted the offer but made it clear he did not want to have sex with me.Afterwards he told me he loved me and went to bed and I was so upset, I started looking for an answer online and chatted to a guy in a similar situation. I have been emailing this man for 2 weeks and have exchanged pictures and started txting sweet nothings to each other. I feel sexy and desired but i do not want to hurt my husband. i think i could sleep with this man because i have a strong desire to do so, thank God he lives in another city. What can I do to ?