swede1775

ok, I need some help, I have a wife who doesn't see anything wrong with contacting, staying in touch, visiting and on one occasion stayed with an ex. I have tried everything I could think of to make my point, I have asked several opinions from friends and they all say the same answer, it's wrong. My wife just left Friday for a week long trip to Ft. Lauderdale with a couple girlfriends, jokingly I asked if she had an ex down there, she said yes but had no idea where or anything about him. Well, after a gut feeling, I checked the phone records today, there was some texting going on starting last night after we talked, a total of 24 back and forth total, I looked up the number and sure enough it was him, this is the first I've seen this number and went back through our records for the last 12 months, nothing. She keeps insisting that I'm the one she loves, period, we have been married for 10 years, 2 kids, but have not been romantic for over a year and a half(I'm told it's because of my weight and her bad back), I don't know what to do, I'm lost, confused, hurt, the man in me says give the ultimatum, but the family man in me doesn't want to give up seeing my kids, and my wife. Am I wrong in feeling betrayed? I have talked to her best friend and she said not to worry, but isn't that kind of a tainted opinion? Do I confront her now or wait until end of week, will everything go underground? I don't know what is the clear path, am I overreacting?