| | I want out... suggestions?
I met my husband online playing a video game in February 2004 when I was living with my boyfriend at the time. My husband and I were just friends while I was with my ex-boyfriend. When my boyfriend and I broke up I started talking to my husband a lot. He ended up visiting me for a 2 week period in December 2006 and we hit it off and "fell in love."
I left my ex-boyfriend for several reasons. I lived with him for 3 years and he never had a stable job. For the 3 years I was there he had about 10 different part-time jobs that never lasted more than 4 months. I couldn't handle the instability and laziness. He was super lazy all the time and had a horrible way of talking to me, I had to leave.
My husband knew about all of this and promised me the world, pretty much. In July 2007 my husband moved in with me and we got married in December 2008. In August 2007 he got a job working with Home Depot and he moved up to full-time within a couple months and then got promoted to Supervisor within his first year there. Things were going smoothly and he was ambitious and motivated until he started smoking weed.
A year after becoming a Supervisor, my husband decided to step down because of the "stress." How much stress can you have for a $12 an hour job?! I thought it was a stupid excuse, but I supported him nonetheless. On top of him stepping down, there are times where he volunteers to go home early when the store is slow... so he doesn't really have a full-time job anymore with all the times that he leaves early and calls out sick. Now with the $200 a month pay decrease and him spending anywhere from $60-$100 on weed a month, we were struggling. We had to downgrade from smart phones to regular phones, cancel our cable TV, and downgrade other various expenses.
There was a 6 month period not too long ago where he stopped smoking weed in order to find a new job (drug test purposes). But they were all jobs that I had applied to for him, and I made the resume. He showed up for the interviews, but he was never hired. Soon after this happened he started smoking weed again.
I am extremely ambitious and motivated at work. I've been working for the same company going on 9 years, I make $20 an hour (twice as much as my husband) I am graduating college in May 2013 with a Bachelor degree in Business. I can't live the rest of my life with somebody like this. If I didn't have 2 dogs with him (that he loves just as much as I do), it would be super easy to leave him. We have a joint bank account and I'm scared that he will spend all of my money if I mention anything about leaving him (which has happened in the past with him). I'm tempted to open up a new bank account, pack up all of my stuff while he is at work one day and leave with the dogs... Any suggestions?