Was just referred to this. Anyone else read this?
Where do you see yourself fitting? Where does your SO or EX fit in? An Overview of the Drama Triangle
Originally Posted by UpnDown
Hope it can help you in some way.
Not sure I understand it completely, but it does make some sense. Especially stating that people treat themselves as they were treated as children. My h def does that.
My h has played the "rescuer", being the martyr. But, finds that I don't need rescuing. At times then, I tend to rescue him. So, maybe that makes him feel worthless?
He's def in the "victim" part of the triangle now. And working very hard to make sure that I see that he is the "victim".
The other part that stuck out at me was that we rescue ourselves and others by denying what we know. "If I look the other way and pretend not to notice, it will go away." I've said this about my h from the beginning. His denial of any issues.
Thanks for turning me on to this. Reading helps me sort through these confusing times.
As for myself, I think I tend to rescue. I used to live in the victim role (high school and college), until I gained much needed self confidence. Now? I'm not sure where I fit. Still trying to figure that one out. Many times I like to rescue, but I also find myself persecuting. I'd like to think I'm not always on the triangle.....
There's many of you out there that know way more about this topic. Feel free to share.