 Re: I cheated on my husband of 6 years
Being a wife and mom is tough and even lonely sometimes. Being a working wife and mom can be even harder since you have to fill so many rolls. But then again your husband has to as well with his career.
It does not matter that the two of you like different things. If the two of you really looked at it, you could find some things that you like and can do together. For example take golf lessons together and start playing every weekend; or dance classes; or scuba classes. Doing a joint activity where the two of you learn something together is one of the best ways to bond.
Your affair is hurting you, your husband and especially your child. And of course it’s hurting the OM’s wife and even him.
The affair is “fantasy land”. It’s not rad. It’s not mature, enduring love. If you left for him and married him some day he will cheat on you as well. Think of that. It’s not mature, enduring love. It’s selfish & deceitful. You only get to see the ‘best’ part of the OM. Only what he wants you to see. You don’t seem him in everyday life… you don’t see him when he’s being lazy and refusing to help around the house or all the things that have made his marriage go bad. Remember that he is 50% responsible for the bad state of his own marriage. So he’s not perfect either. And he’s not seeing the real you that your husband sees. Instead he sees the happy you only.
You need to embrace your husband and child. Snap out of the affair fog and get back to reality. You how see that the affair is not a solution but has only made matters worse in your marriage. It will get a lot worse before it gets better when your husband finds out.
If you pull back from the fantasy you can focus on improving your marriage. You need to rebuild your relationship with your husband. Give that 100%. Then if after you give your marriage 100%, you will know if you should stay or leave.
You crave the passion and romance that you once had. I’ll bet that your husband does as well. But like you does not know how to get it back.
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