Originally Posted by Zanna
Exactly. MC is pointless if you're going to leave out vital information or lie by omission. You can't break don't a wall you don't know exists.
However, as already mentioned the lack of intimacy could mean her H is also having an A. None of us knows for sure which is why cheating only complicates the issues in the M further.
But if the lack of intimacy sex went on for the entire marriage, perhaps there are other reasons.
OP, did you ever ask your H why he didn't want to have sex? Do you spend time together? How does he feel about the marriage?
Zanna, I hope I know why he wont have sex with me. I used to think it was because of his job (Homicide detective), he sees a lot of ugly things. So whenever he tells me his tired, headaches etc. I just stop and dont bother. Sometimes, I would tell him if we can do it, and he would tell me, "maybe" and then by the time we were in bed, he would say "he's tired", "not tonight" or whatever. I am tired of getting rejected. I also build up resentment because of it and at one point, I thought of divorcing him.