Originally Posted by GetTough
>>the man in me says give the ultimatum
Listen to your gut. It is rarely wrong for a man to follow his gut when it's telling him to act like a man. The only question you have to decide is exactly what ultimatum to give, and when. There is a lot to be said for staying covert and getting as much info as you can before you show your hand.
I'm on the same page as you, but what if waiting means she now has the opportunity to have sex? And what if she doesn have sex with the guy? Isn't that worse? I know it's not a good idea going in with guns blazing without all the information, but the alternative can be a b1tch.