Originally Posted by Abra
I don't think the changes I'm asking for are that unreasonable and are basic social skills in life. So, if it's easy to do, why not do it? Even though he won't do it - because I know he can, I just keep hoping that he will. It would be better to make this work than to start over again in life. Maybe he doesn't change because he doesn't really care if I divorce him or he wants me to take responsibility for the divorce. Maybe I don't divorce because I don't feel like I have a good enough reason? I ask myself all the time why don't I just divorce him and start my life over clean instead of being so stuck.
It's interesting to hear this from the point of the "leaver", as I've wondered what my husband might be thinking. He says he's looking for "consistent behavior over time". He is a minister, and I reminded him that there are no Biblical grounds for divorce in our marriage. This is just all so confusing for me, and I wonder how long it will take for him to get out of this D mindset.