| | Re: I think the sexual spark has died
I might understand the issue; As my husband would put it... Having the same dinner every night for 20 years gets boring.
Try to get out of your comfort zone and try new things the reward was worth it. Discuss the options with your wife and find something new each week or month to try.
Shop for toys together and use them on each other.
Discuss new fantasies and give them a try, even if they never turned you on before.
Never played dress-up/wasn't your all thing before, try it now.
Never wore sexy lingerie, try it out. She never has, buy her something.
Read erotic short stories together.
Try the book about a new position everyday.
So the theory is next time you find her using her toy, take control, grab the toy and help her use it. Or just offer to help her with it today or tomorrow. Open the door to find exciting new possibilities.
* This can work if your still emotionally connected, if your not emotionally connected you might want to work on that issue.