Originally Posted by kingsfan
Have you discussed this with her?
Assuming you have, my first question is the toy you mentioned. Maybe she is getting more enjoyment out of this than she i you? People on here comment a lot about the affect porn can have on a man's desire for his wife, and I think the same applies to toys, especially for women. Toys can give a woman an orgasm, something that men naturally have more trouble doing through straight vaginal intercourse. I'm not sure how far the two of you go, but unless you are doing something to give her an orgasm, maybe she's just having to much fun with her special little friend right now.
If it's not this, then to be honest I'd begin questioning an affair. There's a reason why someone changes dramatically, and I doubt it's just because she got bored with you. What's more likely is she's found something she likes better.
I was rather reluctant to bring out the possible affair card... but honestly? I was not enjoying sex with my husband. I used toys when he was gone, so I would get off. And, I was in the middle of an EA when I did these things. Not saying this IS what is going on, but it is ONE possibility.