lookingforhope

Thanks "Lamaga", "UpnDown", and "Djf" for the quick and candid responses! I can't disagree with any of your observations. I'm aware that she's been stewing for a long time and well ahead of me in terms of moving on. It's not that I even want her to mourn....I'm just trying to understand the mindset of initiators better. The concern is for my kids and their adjustments mainly....but also for her, too. Their comments of late give me some pause. I dare not try to interfere or openly question my wife's decisions (been there done that) but I just wonder if she's making good decisions for herself and the kids. This has to be a big reality adjustment for her in spite of her mental shift before now. I know it is for the children and that's why I scratch my head. She's usually been very attuned to their needs in the past.