Re: Lost - Losing Wife
You can only look after you. Seek some couceling for you. She is confused and unlikely to be able to chose between you or the other man. I would tell her to move out and tell her that you cannot work on this marriage unless she is willing to work on this relationship with out the other guy. She needs to clear her head and decide what she wants. She cannot finish or come back into your relationship with the guy tagging along. She owes it to you to get out, and figure out what she wants. It will go back and forth until you decide to let go and it will take its toll on all of you. Remove yourself from the situation, and let her figure out for herself. By being supportive while the other guy lurks in the shadows will not give your marriage any chance. She has got to figure this out on her own, without you. I guess you can tell I have been there long time ago. Good luck.
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