Originally Posted by Mr_brown
Hearts... I've never thought about the resentment until this thread and I'm not sure. She is very content with our situation. And I am as well to an extent. I want more physically. The pretend you like it is from Athol's website. We have been through a lot but we have come out on top, right where we both want to be. Looking closely at her behavior, she trends to focus on little details where I focus on the big picture which results in us complimenting each other perfectly. But I think somehow these little details to her are overwhelming? But I'm not sure? It just seems like she always has something else on her to do list until she's exhausted. I don't want to say that I just thought of this. I get her gifts like massages and whenever she needs a break to get her nails done or go out with friends it's no big deal she allows me the same treatment, but being physical is the last thing on her mind.
Just trying to remind her that marriage is physical.
Aha...... apologies, I thought I read in here there was resentment from her. Thanks for filling me in on the 10-second rule and the jovial reply part.
The positive in your relationship sounds ...well, positive! Has she always been this way with regards to being physical? Based on what you wrote it sounds like there is avoidance on her part. Through her filling her time, and neglecting your need in that way. Perhaps not consciously, but it's there. I like AFEH's suggestion of telling her you want to be her lover and share in romance and fun. If there's something preventing her from sharing that with you, the motivation, it does seem to me that'd need to be addressed. The spouse would need to be somewhat open and willing I'd imagine?