Originally Posted by carras
I know I am - and I am EXTREMELY GRATEFUL for this!
Let me make this as clear as possible - I LOVE MY WIFE! She is my best friend, the only woman I want to be married to. I couldn't stand the thought of hurting her - of her suffering pain for which I am the cause.
But, feelings are feelings and my sexual feelings are what they are - I've tried to change them, live with them, deal with them for years - I just don't know how much longer I (we) can go on like this.
It's clear you love your wife. As do I (yes I'm a dude). Otherwise we wouldnt have signed up to a pink message board. It's clear you want it to work too. I asked about midlife crisis because I wondered if this was a new feeling or if you always had it.
I get the feeling this is salvageable. Her willingness to at least try the suggestions you've made to spice it up and your willingness to seek more ideas tells me this will be fixed.
Keep it up.