swedish

Do you think she may be withholding some details from you in fear of how you might react? If it were me, I would have a calm talk and tell her that you are having trust issues and it's in the way of the two of you making progress and causing you stress. I would only do that if I were also ready to hear the whole truth, without going off the deep end. Maybe it's time to think of the worst she might have done and decide whether that would be a deal breaker for you? If not, see if you can get what you need to move forward towards rebuilding trust. If you feel the need to talk to friends, etc. about what's going on it will understandably make her uncomfortable around them. It will also not help in bringing you closer to her. Only you can decide what to do as far as your marriage and rebuilding trust can happen, but she has to be open with you and you have to be willing to make her feel safe doing so.