| | Re: Oblivious, but why???
Thanks for your responses.
No, the looking the other way is just not there.
Yes I understand that his affair is not my fault, but in reflecting back on my end I have to know that this will never happen again. He is working on being a better husband and so am I working at being a better wife. I do not want to stay paranoid for ever, not my style and I want to recuperate some resemblance of the old me. I knew something was ‘wrong’ in the marriage/with him. So many things happened during his 4yrs affair, yes a four year affair!!. The affair started just when we found out his mother had terminal cancer and 3 months later she passed away, then he had a major accident that landed him in the hospital for 6 weeks, lost his job of 20yrs, and had another automobile accident. All these major tragedies had me thinking he was struggling with life, depressed. But never the stench of OW.