My husband had a client in from out of town and after a night out in the city they ended up at a strip club. My husband has gone a dozen times in the past 30 yrs. i have know him (sometimes with me) and has never lied to me about it. It's usually for a bachelor party or a celebration of some sort. It is not a problem at all, and a rarity. We've been married almost 24 years. This one trip to the strip club ended up costing him and his client a total of $1,800 between them. He doesn't remember what happened, although he swears it was just a drunk lap dance/tease. He has NEVER lied to me before and I think he would know if something more happened (i.e. hj, etc). We did dispute the charges and received copies off all the receipts, none of which were signed by him. I don't question the amount of money because I do know these clubs overcharge and often rip you off from what I've read. Anyway, all i do know is that he got to the strip club by 9PM and took the 12:15 train home. He was there at most for 3 hours and thinks he may have fallen asleep. He doesn't even remember how he got to the train. He remembers bits and pieces from the night....someone asking him if he wanted more, someone handing him a drink, and someone handing him his wallet. He said the actually lap dance seemed like 2 minutes long. He told me the morning after that he went to a strip club but didn't go into details because I immediately freaked out and left the house. Later that day I pulled out the clothes he wore and they were covered with bronzer....his crotch, his lap, and his dress shirt too (must have been untucked as that was covered with bronzer too). I also noticed his bath towel was orange from the night before....either his hands were covered with makeup from touching her, or his face, from her boobs in his face. My husband is an amazing man and loves me dearly. He is still very attracted to me and would have sex with me every day if he could. He feels terrible about what happened and has been apologizing ever since. Whenever we're out together (we have a great social life) I end up bringing it up again hoping for more answers/details. Since he really can't tell me what happened I just keep imagining her all over him and his hands all over her (hence the orange on the towel). He swears to me you can't touch and does not remember touching her. He said maybe the makeup rubbed off on his hands from his jeans or even from tucking in his shirt. It has been 5 months and I still am not over this. His heart is aching from how much he has hurt me, but I still can't get these 3 hours out of my head. I think if I knew what happened I'd feel better, it's the unknown that worries me. Has anyone ever been through this and if so how did you get beyond this? Oh, and by the way, as much as I can't get over this, this event has actually been a blessing to our sex life. I find myself being more sexual and he's loving it, however I constantly have this pit in my stomach and void in my heart for the hurt of him doing this to me. I guess it's more of a trust thing than anything else.