Originally Posted by JustMe

From mine and my husband's experience, things did get a little worse before they got better in counselling. Mainly it was because things that we had kept to ourselves got laid out on the table, so to speak, and we both felt emotionally raw. Things that we didn't know about each other like insecurities or jealousies came out in counselling and it was hard. It was hard to see each other so vulnerable 1) because we felt helpless to fix it and 2) because generally we are both very strong (as in character and emotions) people and it was a little jarring at first to think that in some situations we may not be able to lean on the other. Also I had some past abuse issues that I had refused to deal with and I had a really hard time confronting them and tended to push away in order to search myself to handle my own demons. It was hard for me to turn to my husband with that and he didn't know how to help me. I hope this makes some sense...
However, we DID get through it, and now we're stronger than ever! My only advice as far as the counselling goes is to be absolutely honest in there! A shattered puzzle can't be put back together if there are pieces missing. Know what I mean?

Hang in there!