| | Re: Satisfying her emotional needs without a fight resulting?
I think the way to avoid fighting when emotional needs aren't being met is to make sure that emotional needs are being met. If her emotional needs were being met, she wouldn't be interested in arguing. If your emotional needs were being met, you wouldn't be interested in arguing either.
If you have not already done so, I recommend reading the books The Five Love Languages and His Needs, Her Needs. Either or both of them should be helpful to you and your wife in figuring out what you each can do to meet the other person's emotional needs.