Originally Posted by Shaggy
Don't stop being angry.
Angry helps you focus and know your enemy.
These days everyone is so much in a hurry to forgive and accept and accomodate.
Why? Have we become a culture of doormats? Anger directed against enemies is reasonable and natural. It's nature giving us motivate and focus against threats.
when the OW/OM stops being a threat you can down grade them to not current enemy, but don't rush it.
The anger is definitely a protective mechanism, IMO.
I do think our culture forgive cheaters far too easily. Everyone, including the counselors are all to quick to suggest forgiveness or to attribute too much blame to the loyal spouse.