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MBuck26 · 09-13-2009, 02:29 PM

O.k. so I ask this Question on ask on Yahoo and of course Got bashed because it was too long and people there obviosly cant see and understand what the purpose of Ask is anyways ..but I got led here so Guys I need your Honest opinion on this How you feel.Now Honestly Real Answers please?

At the end of the day in people's heart with their hidden plots/motives/and schemes, behing the hidden cloak of things we wish not to discuss ..Do people really get married for Love and companionship or deep down inside they know that its a smart career move financially and its a survival issue.. I mean or why else would people(women/men) get mad at you for giving yourself to another person physically or emotionally it's considered cheating, Cheating on what ? the contract ?Cheating on Love ??W.T.F? the agreement of marriage is I can only love you, and be there for you only, and be sexual with you only and think of sexual thoughts of you only or its considered ,cheating , so heres the Question .can Love and hate abide in the same dwellings and still remain pure ? if i have love in me then that love is in me and can only be poured out to whoever is before its receivings ..Like a well of water ought shoot forth the same water for whoever approaches the well , If I say I Love My wife and family then how can i hate someone else ?? you cant mix love and hate just like you cant mix water and kool-aid in the same cup, and the water still reamin pure H20 ..it is now dilutted and no longer pure ..same with love and Hate if i say I love then it should be directed towards everyone, or iIshould examine inside if i truly have Love in me or is it something else . Then how did it become levels of love ?? I love him but i hate her ?? I just care about that person but i love this person is there a Love/Hate/Care switch that we flick at our convenience ?

Honestly it seems as if we treat Marriage with alot of fear ..is marriage a control thing ?? constantly enforcing the rules of marriage ,do's and dont's for fear of Losing this individual ..seems as if the commitment becomes bondage and obligation after awhile, Slowly but surely your freinds change ..you cant hang out with the single ones anymore ,time to do the couple freind thing , whats all the effort in preserving this thing called Marriage anyway.. is it really worth it or with all our great efforts in the end fall short ,and fill the pages of our chapters of Life with stamps of vanity..I mean me personally i really enjoy The first two Months of a realtionship, Thats when the two indivuals are actually trying and putting forth an effort to sell themselves to one another , but once comfort with eachother sets in ..then comes the B.S. ..Makes you question whether or not this Marriage stuff is really supposed to go they way we Have conducted it .. Being Social is Good ,being adventorus is fun , trying new things , is always fun too. Could it possibly be that we constrict our own lives with opressing eachother for our own personal hidden satisfaction, I mean if you took (survival,money, and material) out of the picture i highly doubt there would be as many marriages . Im starting to question whether or not people are supposed to be with eachother for desperatly Long periods of time .. Think about all the oppurtunities you let pass by not being able to socialize freely and interact in soceity the way a single person could . all because of a teaching that was traditionally passed down ..something tells me we set our own lives up, and constrict ourselfs with our selfish knowledge, Men/women owning eachother , call it what you want But Job's, companies, and damn near everything in this world requires a contract of somesort ..for one purpose ,,to ensure that they recieve "THERE" end of the agreement ..and if they dont ..They can Hold you accountable with the signature next to an X ..If true love is true love why do you need a contract unless there is doubt or sum form of conceived suspicion that the person may not fully comply.. This can easily be translated as a form of manipulation or bribery but covered up by the word Love.. just Like cell Phone companies and there 2-3 year contract ..you can pay them on time for 3 years straight, but become delinquent once ,and guess what ..bye bye phone service..all the one time payments somehow went unnoticed and in -vain ..Funny how that works ..I Know this has been long and i did my best explaining how I feel ..what you guys think ??

09-13-2009, 02:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
MBuck26 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 27	This is How I feel Honestly.. O.k. so I ask this Question on ask on Yahoo and of course Got bashed because it was too long and people there obviosly cant see and understand what the purpose of Ask is anyways ..but I got led here so Guys I need your Honest opinion on this How you feel.Now Honestly Real Answers please? At the end of the day in people's heart with their hidden plots/motives/and schemes, behing the hidden cloak of things we wish not to discuss ..Do people really get married for Love and companionship or deep down inside they know that its a smart career move financially and its a survival issue.. I mean or why else would people(women/men) get mad at you for giving yourself to another person physically or emotionally it's considered cheating, Cheating on what ? the contract ?Cheating on Love ??W.T.F? the agreement of marriage is I can only love you, and be there for you only, and be sexual with you only and think of sexual thoughts of you only or its considered ,cheating , so heres the Question .can Love and hate abide in the same dwellings and still remain pure ? if i have love in me then that love is in me and can only be poured out to whoever is before its receivings ..Like a well of water ought shoot forth the same water for whoever approaches the well , If I say I Love My wife and family then how can i hate someone else ?? you cant mix love and hate just like you cant mix water and kool-aid in the same cup, and the water still reamin pure H20 ..it is now dilutted and no longer pure ..same with love and Hate if i say I love then it should be directed towards everyone, or iIshould examine inside if i truly have Love in me or is it something else . Then how did it become levels of love ?? I love him but i hate her ?? I just care about that person but i love this person is there a Love/Hate/Care switch that we flick at our convenience ? Honestly it seems as if we treat Marriage with alot of fear ..is marriage a control thing ?? constantly enforcing the rules of marriage ,do's and dont's for fear of Losing this individual ..seems as if the commitment becomes bondage and obligation after awhile, Slowly but surely your freinds change ..you cant hang out with the single ones anymore ,time to do the couple freind thing , whats all the effort in preserving this thing called Marriage anyway.. is it really worth it or with all our great efforts in the end fall short ,and fill the pages of our chapters of Life with stamps of vanity..I mean me personally i really enjoy The first two Months of a realtionship, Thats when the two indivuals are actually trying and putting forth an effort to sell themselves to one another , but once comfort with eachother sets in ..then comes the B.S. ..Makes you question whether or not this Marriage stuff is really supposed to go they way we Have conducted it .. Being Social is Good ,being adventorus is fun , trying new things , is always fun too. Could it possibly be that we constrict our own lives with opressing eachother for our own personal hidden satisfaction, I mean if you took (survival,money, and material) out of the picture i highly doubt there would be as many marriages . Im starting to question whether or not people are supposed to be with eachother for desperatly Long periods of time .. Think about all the oppurtunities you let pass by not being able to socialize freely and interact in soceity the way a single person could . all because of a teaching that was traditionally passed down ..something tells me we set our own lives up, and constrict ourselfs with our selfish knowledge, Men/women owning eachother , call it what you want But Job's, companies, and damn near everything in this world requires a contract of somesort ..for one purpose ,,to ensure that they recieve "THERE" end of the agreement ..and if they dont ..They can Hold you accountable with the signature next to an X ..If true love is true love why do you need a contract unless there is doubt or sum form of conceived suspicion that the person may not fully comply.. This can easily be translated as a form of manipulation or bribery but covered up by the word Love.. just Like cell Phone companies and there 2-3 year contract ..you can pay them on time for 3 years straight, but become delinquent once ,and guess what ..bye bye phone service..all the one time payments somehow went unnoticed and in -vain ..Funny how that works ..I Know this has been long and i did my best explaining how I feel ..what you guys think ??