Russell

Hey, relax Remyl...

First things first. You have to take a good hard look at yourself.

If it was a one night thing, then take it at face value. Now I might be sounding a bit harsh here, but it was only sex. Its not like he fell in love with the girl. Now, that would be something different. He came home to you, and he loves you enough to have the courage to tell you the truth because of his feelings. And... it was two years ago, not last night. Did he come home to you all those nights? I mean, for the two years after the one night stand... he came home to you, tended to you and your child with him, and had a somewhat normal family.

Now in no way am I defending him, I have been on the cheated on end. And yes, I agree... it hurts, and it hurts bad. However if you want to forgive him in time you will. The first thing you need to do is let him know how bad he hurt you. Also on the same token, let him know that you still love him. Also let him know that your ticked off about it.

Who knows... this may end up working to your advantage somehow? It may even bring you closer together. I know if my wife and I survive the affair she had... we will be closer than we were before the affair. 27 Mar 08 was when my bombshell was dropped. And I have made so much progress since then. If you want to work things out, then you will so long as he is willing.

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Hi, my name is Russ, and I'm a recovering alcoholic.
Sober since 27 March, 2008.