dees4

I am new to this forum. My husband and I decided to seperate last week after only 6 months of marriage. This is so embarrasing to me as it was my second marriage. I really went into this marriage believing he was the one for me. I loved him and really still do. After 2 years of dating and being married for 6 months I finally stumbled upon an article describing men who are passive aggressive. I knew we had "issues" but I could never figure out what exactly was wrong with our relationship. Well he fit the description of passive aggressive to a tee! I refuse to live in a emotionally abussive relationship no matter how much I care for him. I felt like I was quickly becoming a shell of my former self. Day after day of feeling no love, no emotional connection, undesirable, and at the bottom of the totem pole... so to speak... I have had enough of it. He is a master at turning every discussion I tried to have with him into somehow everything being my fault and I was the one who would end up feeling guilty and apologizing for nothing! We finally had a blow up last week..well I blew up while he sat there and staired at the television showing no emotion..and I left the next night. At this point he wants a divorce too. But if the past is any indication of the future in a few weeks he will be regretful and willing to do anything to get me back. We broke up at least 4 times while dating and he always lured me back in with his charming ways and promises that always come crashing down after he feels secure in our relationship again. I could write a book on all of this but I will stop for now. Just wondering if anyone else has been through this? I am just hoping he will not make this hard. He says we will file divorce next week and I am just hoping we can get through this as painlessly as possible. It hurts to talk to him on the phone...still so many feelings. I just want this to be over and done with so we can both get on with our lives. Would love to hear from others!!