Originally Posted by cocovas09
if the cheater's partner did everything "right" it wouldnt even be an option or a thought. i was that way up until now...
We're all human... It's impossible to expect someone to do everything right. That's an unfair expectation to place on your husband and as such, it sets him up for failure in your relationship. Maybe your husband has no idea how you feel about the situation at hand... Or maybe he knows a little bit from some of your communications but he has no idea how close to losing you he really is. Do you think he would start to pay attention more to your feelings and try to understand the seriousness of his actions if he just knew how close to stepping out you've come?
Part of the issue here is that affairs are starting to become the "easy way out" for people to turn, rather than fighting the good, hard fight for their marriage. Cheating is the easy way out to not facing your problems head-on. It's not a solution, it's a devious act of hurtfulness.
What's important here is you realize you need to stop fantasizing about another man so much, but rather channel your thoughts and energy into how you can give your husband a fighting chance at your relationship together. Posted via Mobile Device