Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Husband Makes more Money then me, can I tell him how to spend it?

Effygerms · 06-30-2012, 01:42 AM

My husband is a fisherman and makes a pretty decent living. The only problem is that he makes the bulk of our income but hes terrible with money. We can't afford a house for our family because he spends money on stupid stuff. He says things like it was only 100, 200 or 300 hundred dollars. He always has the have the best of the best of everything. Example, we cant get a plastic trash can we need the stainless steel one that $30 more. I looked thru our bank statements to find that he was spending at least around 2k on miscellaneous things a month.

The thing that making me feel torn is when I bring up his spending and ask him to cut back he says he will. Then he gets a new crazy phone that he really doesn't need and makes every excuse in the book. One of his excuses is that he works hard for his money and he deserves nice things. I cant really argue with that because he does work a very hard in high labor job.

As a wife and the mother of his child what right to I have to say what he can and can not spend money on? I wish I was more of a contributor, that way I could save up more money for the big picture.

The thing that drives me crazy is I feel like i do everything I can to save money on my end. I coupon, use cloth diapers. I'm scrubbing baby crap off of a cloth diaper so we can save $25 a week and he comes home and blows $500 like its no big deal.

I'm not sure what to do. I've stopped freaking out at him because that just leaves us broke and fighting. Even when I try to bring it up calmly he either agrees and keeps doing the same things or fights with me.

I want nice things too, I just want those nice things to be a home of our own.

06-30-2012, 01:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
Effygerms Registered User Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Near Boston, MA. Posts: 4	Husband Makes more Money then me, can I tell him how to spend it? My husband is a fisherman and makes a pretty decent living. The only problem is that he makes the bulk of our income but hes terrible with money. We can't afford a house for our family because he spends money on stupid stuff. He says things like it was only 100, 200 or 300 hundred dollars. He always has the have the best of the best of everything. Example, we cant get a plastic trash can we need the stainless steel one that $30 more. I looked thru our bank statements to find that he was spending at least around 2k on miscellaneous things a month. The thing that making me feel torn is when I bring up his spending and ask him to cut back he says he will. Then he gets a new crazy phone that he really doesn't need and makes every excuse in the book. One of his excuses is that he works hard for his money and he deserves nice things. I cant really argue with that because he does work a very hard in high labor job. As a wife and the mother of his child what right to I have to say what he can and can not spend money on? I wish I was more of a contributor, that way I could save up more money for the big picture. The thing that drives me crazy is I feel like i do everything I can to save money on my end. I coupon, use cloth diapers. I'm scrubbing baby crap off of a cloth diaper so we can save $25 a week and he comes home and blows $500 like its no big deal. I'm not sure what to do. I've stopped freaking out at him because that just leaves us broke and fighting. Even when I try to bring it up calmly he either agrees and keeps doing the same things or fights with me. I want nice things too, I just want those nice things to be a home of our own.