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Old 06-30-2012, 02:27 AM   #1 (permalink)
beccahosierr
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Default somebody PLEASE help me

My name is becca, im 18 and my fiance is 22. We have been together for 2 years now. He proposed to me on my 18th birthday in september, and we have been living together for about 9 months now. Well before all that, everything was completely perfect. Now, he stays at "work" late, hides his phone, wont spend any time with me at all, wont listen to what i have to say, purposely tries to piss me off, he ignores me, doesnt care at all about my feelings, and our sex life is barely existent. I have tried to talk to him about my feelings, but he keeps saying "nothing is wrong, i love you, and i never want to leave". I have almost ended this relationship 2 times, and when i do, he cries and begs. I want love from him, all he wants from me is chores and to get a job.

I feel trapped, I feel like i have spent soo much time in this relationship, that it would be pointless to leave it. I think im too young for this. I keep putting off our wedding, im scared. I feel like my teenage life has been robbed, like i was forced to grow up too soon. My family completely loves him, and would be mad if i left him. Im really lost, i want to leave sooo bad but, if i do, whats going to happen? will i be unhappy the rest of my life? What if i will screw up my one chance of happiness?

We are starting to nit-pick each other like crazy, we sleep on opposite sides of the bed, we fight all the time, he wont cuddle unless i beg or get mad, he shows no affection at all.

It might sound wierd, but i love him with all my heart no matter what, but im REALLY unhappy. He wont even try to fix anything, he thinks everything is "ok". I dont want to just be satitisfied, i want to be happy.

I guess my questions are. Should i stay or go? should i wait more? If i leave, how would i do it? what do i say? it will be really hard to leave since we live together. Im lost please help
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