Originally Posted by Effygerms
As a wife and the mother of his child what right to I have to say what he can and can not spend money on? I wish I was more of a contributor, that way I could save up more money for the big picture.
You have the right to decide on your family's finances but all that matters if he will listen to you and accept your 'right'.
The basic problem is differences in frugality. You are a very frugal person (kudos for that btw) while he requires instant gratification. Such a situation can stress out any marriage because your outlook in life is not the same. You think of tomorrow and how saved money can be useful to meet your expenses while he is only interested in today. Unfortunately unless he changes his outlook you'll be stressed for most of your marriage.
In your case i would suggest hiding small amounts for money away from him in a secret account. That will help you in a financial emergency or in the event you have to go your separate ways. Since you control your family's finances this should be a breeze for you. Good Luck!