| | Re: I was not looking...
This type of thing in a marriage can be seen by the husband as a fitness test. “Am I a fit husband, or not?” And in that sense I got tested many times when with my wife in the 4 decades we were together.
Not only with that seemingly immediate and deep connection with a woman you’ve not even spoken to, but with a woman working in the office where the attraction starts off strong and just keeps getting stronger. And then almost total strangers knocking on your hotel bedroom door at one in the morning for “a light”.
All these are fitness tests for a husband and subsequently the man inside of him. I didn’t pass all my fitness tests, no way. But I did for the last 35 years of our relationship and I’m quite proud of that. My wife didn’t pass all of her fitness tests though but I’m certain she got many more than I or any other man on the planet ever will.
As to whether you pass or fail the fitness tests that come your way will in the eyes of many and in your own eyes define the very “type” of man you are.