| | Re: What should I ask in Divorce??
Hi, I will PM you as soon as I get more time, but I would focus on custody first of all.... shared is the standard but you will prob. get primary residence since the babies are small. No overnights while you're breast feeding, so breast feed... Child support, certainly gets calculated on the proportion of time you spend with the kids. vs what he spends with the kids. Division of property should be about 40/60 he 40 you 60% (at least in Australia), since you have the primary care. With custody, I would ask for a morality clause (no gf. sleeping over when the kids are there, unless living together or engaged), since the kids don't need people coming in and out of their lives while they are so young. Don't agree to 50/50 custody. Kids need to feel they have a home base. There was a study done on how 50/50 creates 'ping pong kids' and messes them up...splits their personality sort of. My friend had that happen to her, and it really messed up her little boy. Consider holidays, vacations, father mother days and birthdays. Who's with the kids then? Daycare... he should contribute. Extra curricular activities for kids, he could help too, although if he didn't meet your littlest one yet and served you while you were giving birth, essentially (what a complete d*ick!) then I wouldn't hold my breath. Cars should get split. Think who will have the kids on their health insurance, claim taxes for them. Think of being able to access (call kids) when they are with the other parent. Establish an agreement on communication... how, when, what time frame before he needs to get back to you. THink future, will he agree to help with the kids tertiary education? Good luck doll. Congratulations on your bubba and keep strong.