My husband and I are now separated for 3 weeks. Im back in Canada and he is in the states.
I'm trying so hard to get our marriage back on track but he seems to need more space. He says he gave up everything for me and is now trying to find himself. I moved to another Country for him. I am still coping with the loss of my brother, moved my 7 year old daughter away from the only family she knew, for my new family. I didn't know anyone there and wasn't able to work yet.(no papers filed) Wrong doing on my part.
Anyways my husband did alot for me and yes he took very good care of us.
We were never with out.
But there was something missing in my life and I wasn't ever happy.
Kids were in school, he was at work, and I did wifely things.(cleaning,cooking,ironing etc) But I still wanted something for me.
Y couldn't I be happy with what I had?
I didn't want to leave him I love him. He now doesn't even want to talk to me.
We've had problems from his child to mine, he is strict and I was easy going, he says I never accepted his other kids he had in a previous marriage. How can I even get to know them when he wasn't even allowed to see them. He hasn't seen them in over 7 years!!! NOT my fault. I don't have anything to do with y he doesn't try to call or make efforts go to see them. All his ex wanted is $ from him. And everything was under her terms. We've only been married for 10 months. And we've been together for nearly 2 years.
I still love him and want to work things out every time I call he says he needs time and that he is not the same person anymore thanks to me. He gives me hope and then turns around and says he's done. I don't get it. He won't even go see a marriage councillor with me. I offered to go back to work it out and he doesn't even want that. How can I show him I care and want this and will do what ever it takes if I can't even go back home???
I was negative person and always depended on him, thats only becos I never really knew how to be supportive and strong. I am asian, our parents still want us to depend on them and most asians I know still live at home een when they are married. He should understand that I am the way that I am because of how I grew up.
I know I know I need to GROW UP!
But we are married how can he just give up. Throw us away?
How much time do I give him???
enough time for him to forget us and move on?
He jsut gives me mixed signals.