Originally Posted by FormerNiceGuy

You can't control the wife.

You can control you.

She is not responding. Accept it and quit trying.

You can live for a little while without sex and intimacy from your wife.

Focus on yourself. Improve yourself. Take up a hobby, get a promotion, start a business and don't care what the wife thinks about it. Do it for you.

Detach the emotional hose from your wife. Put your passion into something that gives you a return.

Be in the moment.

Take these steps not to punish your wife, but to improve yourself.

You need to find yourself in a place where you love your wife AND know that you can live without her. This is the paradox of lasting love.

She will either respond or not.

Either way, you will be OK.

P.S. You don't need to understand anything about your wife or your relationship. Don't overthink - act in a congruent and authentic manner and you will do fine.