Originally Posted by anonymouskitty
........ just don't paint the picture that Dad is an arsehole.
Well? My grown son concluded that his Dad was, in fact an arsehole and was very angry with him at first. It's been 4 months since we separated and our son has had a few discussions with his father. Although he still thinks his Dad is an arsehole, his anger has subsided and I can see where, since his Dad admitted his acts (said I was 99% correct) and knows he will have to pay for his mistakes, our son sort of feels sorry for his father.
I'm fine with that. I had hoped that our son would maintain a relationship with his father, and did not discourage this. I think my son was worried that I would feel betrayed, and I assured him that everything is fine. He needs his father. He already has me.