Originally Posted by badbane
Tester your wife has every right to know you messed up. You have already done the damage it is just a matter of time now. This is not a time to cower. This is time to face the music and reap what you have sown. You have already hurt her. She will be gutted. But your willingness to tell her and your totally remorse will be what saves your marriage.
I am sorry but if she finds it and finds out you did not tell her it is just one more thing you did to make her not trust you.
I agree with this post.
It's better if you tell her. She will find out and it will add to the doubt and mistrust going forward.
I found out about my husband through anonymous letters, emails and photographs.
He never confessed and that says he planned to keep things going as long as possible behind my back,