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daisygirl 41 · 07-04-2012, 03:58 AM

Hi tm84
My H had an EA turned PA and we are now 4 months into R.
From what you say you are doing what you should be in terms of helping your wife to heal. Finding out about an A is a devastating and life changing event though, which for some, takes years to recover from.
As BSs we all heal at different rates. Does your wife want to heal? Does she want the marriage to work? I would expect her to be a little further into her recovery by now, if what you say is true, but again we are all different.
Your wife still sounds like she is very resentful towards you, possibly even angry. I urge you to encourage her to go and get done IC from a pro marriage councillor. It helped me so much. Just being able to talk to someone neutral was a great release.
How long have you been married?
What was your marriage like before?
Would you care to share the particulars of your A?
Be patient with her. She is obviously hurting, but she needs to helP herself to heal also!
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I just read your link.
Your W Definately needs IC.
What is the reason for your dwindling sex life? Was it like that when u were courting?
Your W is very hurt but I think there might be done other issues there!

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daisygirl 41 Forum Supporter Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 1,881	Re: A year out from dday as a WS (EA)... Hi tm84 My H had an EA turned PA and we are now 4 months into R. From what you say you are doing what you should be in terms of helping your wife to heal. Finding out about an A is a devastating and life changing event though, which for some, takes years to recover from. As BSs we all heal at different rates. Does your wife want to heal? Does she want the marriage to work? I would expect her to be a little further into her recovery by now, if what you say is true, but again we are all different. Your wife still sounds like she is very resentful towards you, possibly even angry. I urge you to encourage her to go and get done IC from a pro marriage councillor. It helped me so much. Just being able to talk to someone neutral was a great release. How long have you been married? What was your marriage like before? Would you care to share the particulars of your A? Be patient with her. She is obviously hurting, but she needs to helP herself to heal also! Posted via Mobile Device I just read your link. Your W Definately needs IC. What is the reason for your dwindling sex life? Was it like that when u were courting? Your W is very hurt but I think there might be done other issues there! Last edited by daisygirl 41; 07-04-2012 at 04:04 AM.