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the guy · 07-04-2012, 03:59 AM

Go to BestBuy or Walmart for the VAR, figure on $50 a piece.

Remember, you want your confrontation to be as effective as possible. The proof you cather will give you the confidence and strength in showing him the tough love that he will need to see.

Thats the thing with "effectiveness" many confront with out confidence and speculate and are easily talked out of what there gut is telling them...but with solid proof you have the confirmation to act more aggresive and hopfully scare him straight with the power of being able to let him go if it continues.

I pray that he is in the planing stages and you just find him browsing some dating sites. But it could be a EA with a coworker that may have gone physical or about to go PA...

So stay calm and act like nothing was found....try to be as normal as possible while you investigate. Also keep us up to date, there is alot of views and perspective on a good effective confrontation.

You will also need support b/c as you get closer to the truth you will be emotionally drained, so come here for support until you find the smoking gun or get as close as your emotions will let you.

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the guy Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: CA Posts: 7,311	Re: Advice/input please - honest reason for condom in the laundry? Go to BestBuy or Walmart for the VAR, figure on $50 a piece. Remember, you want your confrontation to be as effective as possible. The proof you cather will give you the confidence and strength in showing him the tough love that he will need to see. Thats the thing with "effectiveness" many confront with out confidence and speculate and are easily talked out of what there gut is telling them...but with solid proof you have the confirmation to act more aggresive and hopfully scare him straight with the power of being able to let him go if it continues. I pray that he is in the planing stages and you just find him browsing some dating sites. But it could be a EA with a coworker that may have gone physical or about to go PA... So stay calm and act like nothing was found....try to be as normal as possible while you investigate. Also keep us up to date, there is alot of views and perspective on a good effective confrontation. You will also need support b/c as you get closer to the truth you will be emotionally drained, so come here for support until you find the smoking gun or get as close as your emotions will let you.