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MainStreetExile · 07-04-2012, 05:07 AM

I wish I could tell you when it ends, or if it even will. From my own perspective, I do not believe that time heals anything. In eight months I have not felt even slightly better, despite hours of counseling, therapy, soul-searching, and endless conversations with any poor soul who might listen to me. All the "advice" I receive seems glib and hollow, operating largely under the assumption that I am somehow "worthy of better" and that there is some hypothetical "love I deserve" out there just waiting to be found. To me, it's pure fiction. I know this may sound strange, but I would give nearly anything to get a text like that from my STBXW, cruel or not. At least it shows that you still occupy some small space in his heart and mind, as opposed to being totally and ruthlessly excised, discarded, and forgotten with an almost robotic speed and efficiency.

However:

If responding would make you feel worse, don't do it. Don't ever willingly do anything that will make you feel worse. If you feel anything like I do, worse is precisely what you do not need to be. Hitting the bottom is bad enough; you do not need to punch through the bottom and find yourself in the Sinister Sub-Basement of Utter and Eternal Despair.

07-04-2012, 05:07 AM	#3 (permalink)
MainStreetExile Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Moorestown, New Jersey Posts: 35	Re: No Contact is So Difficult I wish I could tell you when it ends, or if it even will. From my own perspective, I do not believe that time heals anything. In eight months I have not felt even slightly better, despite hours of counseling, therapy, soul-searching, and endless conversations with any poor soul who might listen to me. All the "advice" I receive seems glib and hollow, operating largely under the assumption that I am somehow "worthy of better" and that there is some hypothetical "love I deserve" out there just waiting to be found. To me, it's pure fiction. I know this may sound strange, but I would give nearly anything to get a text like that from my STBXW, cruel or not. At least it shows that you still occupy some small space in his heart and mind, as opposed to being totally and ruthlessly excised, discarded, and forgotten with an almost robotic speed and efficiency. However: If responding would make you feel worse, don't do it. Don't ever willingly do anything that will make you feel worse. If you feel anything like I do, worse is precisely what you do not need to be. Hitting the bottom is bad enough; you do not need to punch through the bottom and find yourself in the Sinister Sub-Basement of Utter and Eternal Despair.