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Nod · 07-04-2012, 05:15 AM

My wife & I married when she was 19. I was 23. FF to today she is 30, me 34. We have 1 son, 10.

We both were overweight when we married (I was around 330 & 220 for her) & after marriage & our son, things went downhill with weight. After many diet failures, we both decided to have weight loss surgery. I was 474lbs of fat, & she was 291lbs. Hers was 07/11, mine 08/11. (Less than a year ago.)

Both surgeries have been very successful. So successful that my wife has turned into a hottie (140lbs 5'6") & is wearing a size 6. I has A LOT more to lose, but today I am proud to say I finally am under 300lbs (175lbs lost in 11mos) My goal is 200 lbs lost in a year.

Anyhow, great news, I know... But my wife, after weeks of arguing finally admitted what I already knew... We settled... She is a selfish, self absorbed, inpatient woman who I adore. The problem is I turned her into this over the past year. We have spent thousands on new clothes, purses, shoes, etc.. I was in lust with my new lover.

I apparently am not losing weight fast enough, so everything I do now is annoying to her. She has brought up several times that maybe, I should leave, but then says she loves me.

Oh, btw, yes it was me & my insurance that paid for her new attention getter (ie: her size 6) as she was in nursing school (on my dime.) Now she is an RN, & said she wanted to know what it would be like if she was on her own. I said that's a nice way of saying I want to be single & **** around... Then she says, she wants someone who will make her a better person &I haven't been doing that... Ummm ... Read above about me paying for surgery & school (which I was the one to suggest both).. I didn't bother telling her that as i'm not that way...

I love her, but I have created a monster... Going to the gym now to work off this last 100lbs so I can be her fantasy...

Any advice?

07-04-2012, 05:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
Nod Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 62	Weight Loss & now this... My wife & I married when she was 19. I was 23. FF to today she is 30, me 34. We have 1 son, 10. We both were overweight when we married (I was around 330 & 220 for her) & after marriage & our son, things went downhill with weight. After many diet failures, we both decided to have weight loss surgery. I was 474lbs of fat, & she was 291lbs. Hers was 07/11, mine 08/11. (Less than a year ago.) Both surgeries have been very successful. So successful that my wife has turned into a hottie (140lbs 5'6") & is wearing a size 6. I has A LOT more to lose, but today I am proud to say I finally am under 300lbs (175lbs lost in 11mos) My goal is 200 lbs lost in a year. Anyhow, great news, I know... But my wife, after weeks of arguing finally admitted what I already knew... We settled... She is a selfish, self absorbed, inpatient woman who I adore. The problem is I turned her into this over the past year. We have spent thousands on new clothes, purses, shoes, etc.. I was in lust with my new lover. I apparently am not losing weight fast enough, so everything I do now is annoying to her. She has brought up several times that maybe, I should leave, but then says she loves me. Oh, btw, yes it was me & my insurance that paid for her new attention getter (ie: her size 6) as she was in nursing school (on my dime.) Now she is an RN, & said she wanted to know what it would be like if she was on her own. I said that's a nice way of saying I want to be single & **** around... Then she says, she wants someone who will make her a better person &I haven't been doing that... Ummm ... Read above about me paying for surgery & school (which I was the one to suggest both).. I didn't bother telling her that as i'm not that way... I love her, but I have created a monster... Going to the gym now to work off this last 100lbs so I can be her fantasy... Any advice?