Originally Posted by Henri
What are the real options someone would have if they didn't find their wife/husband sexually attractive (both body and personality) but there was a lot of love and a great relationship still?
Avoiding afairs, porn and swinging, is a divorce and a new direction the only moral solution?
I cannot think of any solution to that question and wonder what the solution could be in your eyes?
The first thing IMO would be find out why
the sexual attraction is gone. Only once you know that reason can you know if it's something that can realistically be addressed without divorce. Some can be solved by the couple themselves, some require outside help (like MC), and some are insurmountable.
You mention not being attracted to one's spouse's personality. It's been my experience that when I'm not attracted to how my W is acting, I don't want to have sex with her. Conversely, when we're clicking on an emotional level, I definitely have a desire to be intimate with her. And when she's acting like a c*ck craving sex kitten, then sex is just about the only thing on my mind. My point here is that though two people may make a very good team in all other aspects, small parts of their personality (or even big ones) can lead to a lack of sexual attraction, and in my experience, much more so than physical changes.