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alwaysalone · 09-19-2009, 09:02 AM

desperado: I am sorry that your husband says this to you. And you are correct in many ways. I wasn't small but I also wasn't big when I met my husband. After the birth of our daughter I did gain 60+ lbs. It was hard on me without his smart azz comments. I knew I gained weight, I knew I got more stretch marks. But hell, I am a woman who carried his child, he should be happy that our daughter was born happy and healthy. Instead it's the comments that hurt. Go sit on his lap and you get, **** fat azz you are heavy. Or how about you we both can't fit down the hall. The worst part, he isn't any smaller. He has gained more weight than I did. I did start to lose it. I go back and forth, gain - lose, gain - lose. But still the comments come but yet his fat azz hasn't lost anything. And you are also right, food is our best friend especially if we are upset and/or depressed. What do we do: EAT!! And eat everything in sight. Maybe if they would help us instead of bringing us down, realize that we can't be that small skinny person for the rest of our lives, and help us and love us the way we are, we would be able to help ourselves too.

Just my opinion.

09-19-2009, 09:02 AM	#4 (permalink)
alwaysalone Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: New York State Posts: 35	Re: Men who aren't shallow please advise and anyone else who has an opinion desperado: I am sorry that your husband says this to you. And you are correct in many ways. I wasn't small but I also wasn't big when I met my husband. After the birth of our daughter I did gain 60+ lbs. It was hard on me without his smart azz comments. I knew I gained weight, I knew I got more stretch marks. But hell, I am a woman who carried his child, he should be happy that our daughter was born happy and healthy. Instead it's the comments that hurt. Go sit on his lap and you get, **** fat azz you are heavy. Or how about you we both can't fit down the hall. The worst part, he isn't any smaller. He has gained more weight than I did. I did start to lose it. I go back and forth, gain - lose, gain - lose. But still the comments come but yet his fat azz hasn't lost anything. And you are also right, food is our best friend especially if we are upset and/or depressed. What do we do: EAT!! And eat everything in sight. Maybe if they would help us instead of bringing us down, realize that we can't be that small skinny person for the rest of our lives, and help us and love us the way we are, we would be able to help ourselves too. Just my opinion.