Whathappened

My wife wont talk to me. Its driving me crazy. I wont talk to anyone in person about it because I am ashamed to admit that my marriage has any problems. I try to act as if nothing is wrong while inside I feel like nothing is right. She says she is leaving me and there is nothing I can say or do to change her mind. I cant figure out what went wrong. When I first left home after we were married I was on cloud nine. I thought she was too. She says that marrying me was a mistake and that I forced her into it. She still says shes not seeing anyone else. I dont know what to do. I cant just accept this and move on. I only joined the miltary to provide a life for her and our kids. I find it harder everyday to wake up and face life. Im not suicidal or anything...just miserable. When I first signed up and was going through training I wanted out and almost stopped training to get kicked out. It was her who convinced me I was doing the right thing. She used to talk about us having a 50 yr anniversary. She used to talk about how I was doing something so great for our family. Now she just tells me to leave her alone and stop talking to her. Ive never been in so much pain. I asked her to try counsling...she told me she wont, that she doesnt care and she is leaving me. I just dont know why. She wont talk to me and tell me why. How can she suddenly not love me. Ive never cheated, I sent her stuff just because, and done my best to keep in contact. Everything Ive done in the past 5 yrs has been for her. I dont know how to live without her. How could I have thought everything was ok when everything was so messed up.