| | Re: Sex pre and post marriage like white and black
"As for me telling her what to do, I don't want her to do something for the sake of pleasing me only. "
Why not? Letting her give you a gift shouldn't be a problem. And maybe she'll remember why she enjoyed it before, too.
I think maybe you should join the more realistic among us to find that sometimes you have to give sex when you don't want it and sometimes you'll receive sex from a partner who is less than enthused. It is important to continue to have sex and not to put additional restrictions on it because once gone, it is hell to get sexual connection back. It is easier to kill the relationship and start with someone else, in fact, even if that involves divorce.